How to Choose the Right Family Law Attorney
Every decision feels weighty when your marriage is ending, whether you have an amicable dissolution or a contested divorce. Few decisions are more critical than choosing the attorney who will guide you through the process. You need someone who will listen closely, be honest about what you should expect, and help you make informed decisions.
In a sea of law firm websites, accolades, and online reviews, knowing what really matters can make all the difference.
Start with a Good Referral Source
Some of the best referrals come from people who’ve been in your shoes. If a friend, colleague, or trusted advisor recommends an attorney, ask them what they valued most:
Did their attorney keep them informed regularly?
Was the attorney responsive and compassionate?
Did the attorney take the time to explain the process and provide an analysis of the issues at every step?
Personal experiences can tell you more than any website ever will.
Check the Reviews — But Read Between the Lines
Online reviews can give you a window into how an attorney works. Look for patterns. Are clients mentioning clear communication? Strategic thinking? A sense of calm in the storm? Remember, not every review will be perfect, but the themes matter. You're looking for a team that’s consistently described as professional, attentive, and deeply knowledgeable in family law.
Do Your Homework
Dig a little deeper. Explore the firm’s website. Read their blogs, check out their social media. Are they offering valuable insights? Are they transparent about their approach and experience?
A good attorney doesn’t just talk about legal issues — they help you understand them. Look for signs that they care about educating and empowering their clients.
Awards Matter — But They’re Not Everything
You’ve probably seen badges like Super Lawyers or Best Lawyers in America on websites and in advertisements. What do they really mean?
These honors aren’t handed out lightly. They’re based on peer reviews, professional achievements, and recognition within the legal community. Some of them, such as the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, also require the passing of state and national exams.
At Friedman & Mirman, we’re proud to have been recognized by both Super Lawyers and Best Lawyers, and we’re one of the few Ohio firms where both partners are Fellows of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers — a group of top family law attorneys nationwide.
But here’s the thing: awards should complement the other research you’re doing, not replace it. Awards are a signal that peers respect your attorney; however, the most important recognition is the trust they earn from their clients, day in and day out.
Like Many Things in Life, You Get What You Pay For
If you have no assets, no children, and a very short marriage, your case may not require sophisticated legal representation. But if you have assets, high income, children, a longer-term marriage, or lots of debt, you need an experienced, competent, responsive attorney. Be savvy about your choice of legal counsel. Interview 2 or 3 people you liked online or who were recommended to you. If there is a difference in the fees, ask why. No attorney should be offended by the question and should be able to explain clearly why there’s a difference.
What Matters Most? A Lawyer Who Values You as a Client and as a Person
When you’re choosing a divorce attorney, look for someone who sees you as more than a case number. You deserve a team that is responsive, compassionate, and fully committed to helping you make good decisions in your case.
That’s what we’re here for.
If you have questions, we’re here to listen. And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re ready to stand with you.
This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.
